Why my husband and I got married, lost our minds, and quit our jobs for a startup.

First off, we are both stubborn.  And the thought of letting fear get the best of our hearts was too unbearable to live with on a daily basis.  Yes, many people think we are crazy, even we think we are crazy at times, but we would rather be crazy any day over being fearful of listening to our hearts.

The idea of quitting our jobs to start a business together had been brewing for years, but like most people, we put that idea on the back burner due to many different reasons, but let’s be honest about the main reason—we were scared.  Scared of giving up our normal routine, giving up our successful careers, putting aside our pride, and risking the finer things in life that we had become accustom to.  To expand on how crazy we are, we just got married 6 months ago, had a beautiful destination wedding, an amazing month long honeymoon, added another fur baby to our family, and then quit our jobs…crazy.  My husband gave up a 14 year, $600,000 a year career (that takes big kahunas), and I gave up a career that made me feel independent, secure and confident in myself as a woman.  Yes, there have been the obvious emotions of “Oh shit, what did we just do?”, “What if we can’t make this work?”, “Will people see us as a failure?”,  “What if our idea is stupid?”, but most importantly, “What if we let each other down?”.  That last one is the the most haunting question you can ask yourself in a marriage.  These emotions are not easy to get through, but it’s all a mental game…you have to suck it up, swallow your pride, and stop making excuses.  

Okay…let me throw some caveats in here, because I don’t want everyone to run out and quit their job today.  That would be really crazy, and I can’t have that on my conscience.  So before you quit your job, ask yourself the following questions: 

  1. THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION: What makes you happy?  And if you don’t know what makes you happy, don’t quit your job…you will just end up unhappy and jobless, and that doesn’t sound fun. 
  2. What does your gut say?  If your gut says, “Hey idiot, don’t quit your job, you don’t even like going to the grocery store alone, let alone start a business by yourself.”, don’t quit your job…you will just be miserable and jobless.  But don’t worry, this doesn’t mean you are a failure, not everyone is cut out to drop everything, move into a coffee shop, and sit by themselves all day.  However, if you have a passion that you want to pursue, look for other’s with a similar passion and make something happen together.  Push the envelope and challenge yourself, but ALWAYS listen to your gut. 
  3. Have you taken the time to plan and save money?  Let’s get real for a second…life IS about happiness, you have that part correct, BUT when starting a business, it is also important to pay your bills and feed yourself.  You can’t successfully pitch investors if you are living under a bridge and starving to death.  My recommendation to you: if you have an idea, start saving now.  Figure out how much you need to survive and create a realistic budget for yourself. 
  4. Is your idea attainable and realistic?  For example, if you decide you love planes and want to start your own jet company, that is great…but do you have your pilot’s license? If not, I wouldn’t quit your job to start a jet company…maybe try getting your license first.  Be realistic with your goals, there is a difference between being confident and being delusional confident (don’t be the latter).

Now that we have gotten introductions out of the way, you are probably wondering what business we are starting.  Drum rollllllll please…..

I’m not going to tell you…yet.  But keep an eye out for my next blog post announcing the launch of our new business!  This blog is acting as a diary of our startup journey, but will also host articles around our business as well.  If you have words of encouragement, wisdom or advice, please comment below.  And if you are a sick human and just like seeing people crash and burn, keep following our blog to see how this story turns out.  Subscribe now